These blogs are a way for me to grapple "out loud" with my clinical work and what it actually means to sit with human suffering. Lately, my focus has turned to couples and intimate partners. Often, when intimate partners come into the consulting room, the air is thick with a very specific kind of anxiety and exhaustion. They are caught in a painful, repetitive loop. They tend to present their case like lawyers in a courtroom, each secretly hoping I will act as the ultimate ju